Divorce Busting

We had another really awesome weekend as a family and on our date. It is all a blur at the moment. I keep pinching myself that hubby and I are having the time of our lives after 17 years as a couple and 11 years of marriage. I want to give credit to some really helpful books by marriage counselors and sex therapist: Divorce Remedy (by Divorce Buster author), 8 Reasons Why Talking Isn't Enough; Avoiding the Grass is Always Greener Syndrome: How to Grow Affair Proof Hedges; and Hot Monogamy.

Cliff thanked me today for all my hard work to change things that were causing us grief in our marriage. He said he saw how hard I was trying to change and it made him want to change his faults too and he has changed too. I never asked him to change, but he has. We will never go back to our old life!! The above books gave me a lot of insight and ideas. We had fallen out of love and I never knew that it was a myth that you can't get that love back. And it doesn't take two people to start the process. There is a lot one person can do on their own. And a lot of the things I did were easy, like caring for myself. It made giving so much easier. It made me radiate and more attractive to others and to him. It made me irresistible! We are not only back in love, but better than it ever was before. Going on dates has been the best though!!! Our relationship is as much a priority to me as the kids are.

So enough about that. We all know people who are thinking of divorce. Cliff works with a man who is in a now sexless marriage and they have kids together from when they were not sexless. They have been to a sex therapist and the wife does not want to make love still. He is going to give her an ultimatum. I found out about DivorceBusting.com when we were considering divorce. They even have an on-line community that is really helpful. There are a lot of people who have been on the edge of divorce and who used Divorce Buster's advice and forum that are now happily married. They still visit the forum and give advice to others. I told Cliff about Divorce Busters and the forum and he is going to tell his co-worker about it. His co-worker does not want a divorce, so I hope he looks into other options. I'm mentioning it here and our problems because maybe our happy ending will inspire someone out there to make some changes and use it as a chance to grow. You have nothing to lose! And even if you think you have a happy marriage there are always ways to improve. You may be surprised at how much better life can be! We know we are surprised and very grateful we didn't give up.

We hit a few bumps this weekend and came out ahead. We are still learning and growing but we know we can always work it out.

Thanks for all the support and encouragement out there! Cheers to you all and may you all have a happy ending in all you do!

Here are a few links or articles from Divorce Busting dot com (click one to open):
Why Change?
Forums
Sex Drives
He must be teething
Time Together (Learn why spending time together is the best way to divorce-proof your marriage)