Why not spank? It is wrong and unfair to use hitting to control another person. If I walked up and spanked you how would you react? Support for those wishing to make the transition to respectful parenting from control (click links):
http://www.naomialdort.com/ (Buy her book and read it)
Change is a really slow process. If you shift your reactions by 1% every week you will make progress.
If you are stressed out find out why and make changes.
If you are overwhelmed, get support from those who don't believe in spanking.
Yoga helps move you from physical reactions to loving ones.
Tell yourself you can do it.
Tell yourself you love your kids and they deserve better.
Breathe deep when you start to feel stressed out.
Try to take naps with little ones, if you are tired.
Say no to outside distractions if you are stressed out.
Get away from negative people and thinking.
Don't beat yourself up if you screw up.
Apologize when you screw up.
Bond with your kids.
Smell their hair.
Treat them the way you would want to be treated.
Don't tell yourself they are bad or deserve to be treated with spankings.
Don't be an armchair parent.
Play with them.
Get down on their eye level.
Listen to them.
See things from their viewpoint.
Ask your spouse for help.
Ask your spouse to get support too.
Love your spouse.
Model joy and kindness.
Don't put a lid on your own anger.
Direct your anger somewhere other than kids.
Cry when you are sad.
Laugh when you are happy.
Let your kids feel sadness or anger.
It is part of life.
Don't blame your kids for your problems.
Get counseling from someone who can help process your own inner child issues.
Scott Noelle is a good one.
Get Scott Noelle's Daily Groove emails.
There are lots of parenting coaches who can help over the phone.
Be the change you want to see in the world.
Treat your kids with the same love and respect you would give to a friend who is in pain or frustrated.
Love to all!!!