Tuesday, March 3, 2009

Through the years

Through the years I've been so grateful to have lived a full life! I can't believe I am going to be 37 this year! I feel so young inside. But I would give anything to have my young body back, so I can do it all over again with my new way of seeing the world. I got an email tonight from someone very important to me saying they do not want to live anymore. I think we wouldn't be human if we never had those thoughts at certain times of our lives. This person is at a very vulnerable age when life can seem confusing. They are just getting out of high school and very much confused about what they want to do with their life. It makes me so sad that so many youth have no idea what they really want to do with their lives after 12 or more years of school. I went through that as well. I think just living and being with my boys is the happiest I have ever been. I'm so grateful I am going against the norm of our culture and raising my boys with a sense of adventure. I want them to see the world with the vision I have of the world now. And I don't ever want them to feel like giving up. Life is so worth living!!

My sister Heidi, Mom, me and neighbor dog, Panda. We were at a neighbor's house in Houston, TX around 1982.

This is me in the summer of 1990.

Sister Heidi and Heather (me) at school in fall of 1991. This was the year I graduated.

So what do you tell someone who doesn't want to live? That is a tough place to be. I'll let you know how it goes.

Much love and peace to all!

~Heather xoxxo


Anonymous said...

The thing is...it's not sad that kids don't have their lives mapped out when they turn 18. It's sad that people have made most (all?) of them believe they SHOULD have it all figured out by then. ALOT of kids (and adults for that matter) don't know. And alot of kids THINK they know but then change their minds many many times as they move into and thru adulthood. There's not a thing wrong with that. Maybe what you say could go in that direction. Talk about where the pressure is coming from and tell them that they don't have to fall for it. Maybe they need help getting out from under it so light can shine on them. Unschoolers always have good ideas about that. :o) Talk about people you know who've changed course (yourself included) and how alot of it was/is stuff you never predicted. And how it was all worth sticking around for...to see what was in store for you. Tell them they are in control of their life, even when it doesn't look like it. I think all of us forget that now and then, and have a hard time believing it.
Best wishes. I hope they can get things turned around soon.

Heather's Moving Castle said...

Thanks for the advice! You are right about not needing to have our lives mapped out. I guess what makes me sad is when kids (young adults) are so confused about what really makes them happy and how to achieve happiness. I see that in a lot of adults as well. We think a job or degree or love is what will make us feel complete. And life never goes according to plan.

I will hopefully have an update tomorrow.

Anonymous said...

Makes me VERYYYYYYYY sad! I kid of knew this would happen.. Ya know? Wish I knew what to do. CRIES, SIS

Anonymous said...

Tell them YOU want them to live and will help them however you're able. Sometimes, in the darkest moments - not wanting to hurt others is what keeps people from harming themselves.

Heather's Moving Castle said...

I have no update. The person lives far away and is very secretive about their address and phone numbers. Otherwise, I'd drive other there or send someone.

I am hoping for the best and did all I could do listen and understand and cheer them on for better days.