Yesterday's Child

I read this on a Yahoo list I belong to. It is very thought provoking! Makes me want to try harder to help my boys learn all they wish and give them a little more freedom.

YESTERDAY'S CHILD Copyright © 1993, 1999 Janie Bowman All Rights Reserved YESTERDAY's child was born in the 1800's. As a young boy, he was considered medically fragile. Every respiratory illness known to mankind in that age seemed to seize him. Even though YESTERDAY's child spent many of his early years ill, this did not stop his insatiable curiosity and boyish escapades. TODAY's child would be described as “just being a boy.” YESTERDAY's child often found himself in risky life-and-death situations. One time, around the age of five, this boy nearly drowned in a canal; and later he almost smothered as he sank into the depths of a grain elevator. TODAY's child would be described as “having no common sense.” YESTERDAY's child was found asleep in the barn in a nest he had constructed, lying on top of the chicken and goose eggs he was trying to hatch. TODAY's child would be called “weird, eccentric.” “Get off those eggs, you'll crack them!” YESTERDAY's child drove his parents to exhaustion by his persistent questioning of the world around him, determined to know the “whys,” “what fors,” and “what abouts” of his world. TODAY's child is searching for someone to ask the questions to. YESTERDAY's child, with no malice aforethought but only out of the intense curiosity of an inquisitive mind, set his father's barn on fire. For this he was publicly thrashed by his father, who tried to instill in him the serious consequences of his actions. TODAY's child would be called a “juvenile delinquent.” After only three months of formal education, YESTERDAY's child walked out of his school in a fit of rage. Running home, he could hear the thoughts of the schoolmaster echoing in his head: “stupid.... stubborn... difficult.” Thus, at the tender age of eight, YESTERDAY's child refused to return to school. The next day, YESTERDAY's mother gave the schoolmaster a piece of her mind and withdrew the boy from school. From that day onward, she became YESTERDAY's teacher. TODAY's child would be called a “problem child, a bad boy, oppositional.” And TODAY's mother would be told she was “highly excitable, and coddling her child.” She would be encouraged by all the experts to force her child to return to school because “He'll outgrow it. He's got to learn to adjust.” YESTERDAY's child went swimming with a friend in a nearby creek. When the friend didn't surface for air, YESTERDAY's child waited for what seemed like forever. As darkness fell, he, in his own unique five-year-old logic. concluded that it was time to go home. As the town was trying to piece together the disappearance and drowning of his friend, YESTERDAY's child tried to explain how he waited for what seemed like forever....TODAY's child would be treated for Conduct Disorder and undoubtedly find himself one step away from the juvenile justice system. YESTERDAY's child just couldn't comprehend consequences; that much seems true. One day he attached wires to the tails of two cats and energetically rubbed their fur. This experiment in static electricity went astray when he was brutally clawed. In another instance, one unsuspecting childhood friend suffered an upset stomach after YESTERDAY's child gave him some sort of powder just to see if the resulting gas it produced would send him flying. TODAY's child would be in long-term therapy for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Pervasive Development Disorder, or some other behavioral disorder. YESTERDAY's mother complained constantly about the life-threatening condition of his bedroom. Fearing for the safety of her family and any others who ventured into the family home, YESTERDAY's mother moved his experiments into the cellar. YESTERDAY's child called it his laboratory and immersed himself in science, to the exclusion of what other “normal” kids were doing at his age. TODAY's child would be called “Schizoid,” and TODAY's family would be labeled “dysfunctional.” TODAY's child would be spending time in a court-ordered alternative school program, meeting with a psychiatrist twice a week for therapy, and be attending a class to learn social skills. At age twelve YESTERDAY's child insisted on going to work and began successfully earning his own wage. TODAY's child, at that age, would face a closed door to the world of mentorship in the workplace. TODAY's child would have to search beyond home and work for other avenues to have his abilities accepted and appreciated. As you read about YESTERDAY's child, you are probably wondering how he could have survived and how he could have contributed to society in a positive way. Clearly, YESTERDAY's child had somebody who accepted his uniqueness, changed his environment to meet his needs, was not intimidated by his gifts, and tried sincerely to see the world through his eyes. YESTERDAY's child’s name is Thomas Alva Edison. What is your child's name? YESTERDAY'S CHILD was originally published in the WINTER 1993 Edition of “THE MISSING PIECE”, the newsletter of the Learning Disabilities Association of Washington (State). It is included in the anthology Think Fast! The ADD Experience, edited by Thom Hartmann, Janie Bowman & Susan Burgess and published in 1996 by Underwood Books. A copy of Think Fast is archived in the Smithsonian Institute, along with other memorabilia from the ADD Forum on CompuServe. Please contact the author for permission to reprint. Janie Bowman janie@brightword.com http://www.brightword.com